Life balance

Balance. The ultimate goal. Ricky Lankford


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When you feel that something is missing

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When you feel you are missing something important. When you feel completely lonely in this world. When you are suffocating in your own tears and you don’t see the way out…

Love yourself a bit more.

You are missing yourself.

It’s not your partner who is missing, not job, not money and not even your life’s purpose. You are desperately seeking for love and safe place to hide, but you can’t find it outside.

Stay with yourself. With your feelings. And say that it’s okay to breakdown sometimes. Be there for yourself and say the things which you want to hear from others. Say that you are doing great. That you WILL feel better. Yes, perhaps you are more negative than other people, but that just means a bit more patience. A bit more effort. A bit more time.

You CAN change. You CAN love yourself enough to stop frightening yourself with scary thoughts. You CAN control your thoughts and feelings. Millions other people can do it – so can you.

Ask the Universe to support you in your intention.

Dear Universe,

Please bring me new way of thinking. I want to feel loved, peaceful and balanced too. I want miracles in my life. Help me to love myself more every day.

❤ You CAN do it ❤

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I wrote an email to Oprah…

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Dear Oprah,

I don’t even know why Im writing exactly to you. I just started to read a book Return to love, where Marianne Willamson mentioned you on acknowledgment page. I came home and burst in tears and I just had this silly idea in my head to write a letter, and to start it with “Dear Oprah”… I heard many stories where someone unknown writes to celebrity and they actually hear back from them.
So I am hoping to be that special case, and be heard by you. However, I am not writing about any extraordinary or outstanding idea which you may like and support. I don’t offer any help or any involvement in any humanitarian cause.
I seek help for myself. This email is about me .
I don’t know what to do with my life…With myself. I don’t see the meaning of me living and walking on this planet.
On the surface though, I am normal. And sometimes, quite often lately, I want to be normal. I want to get married, have kids, have some job and be satisfied with it.
But it’s not happening.
I start relationships and they fall apart immediately.
I come every day to work and it has no meaning and brings no satisfaction.
I started to grow spiritually and i was sure it will bring me all the answers, but it doesnt.
In fact, now I feel worse than before I touched spirituality – I feel im suppose to be positive and happy, but I am deeply unsatisfied and suffering.
I thought my purpose is writing a blog about life, but it doesnt bring joy anymore.
I thought my purpose is to be with love of my life. But that man doesnt want to be in my life.
I thought Ill be more happy with charity and volunteering work, but they didnt take me for the activity I signed up for. And I dont think it would change anything anyway.
I managed to raise my mood for a while. I managed to get small steps forward in career, in finding my soul calling, in understanding myself and growing as a person. I was writing gratitude journal daily, doing yoga,meditation, watching motivational speeches. I was “happy” for a while. I thought Im starting to figure out life.
I was wrong. I was energized and happy for a while, but I failed to make any significant change in my life.
Working doesnt make sense to me anymore. Going out with friends seems like attempt to fill in the void in my soul. Actually everything I do feels like attempt to fill the void.
I had bad childhood, but I thought I healed it.
I had bad break up with my biggest love, I thought I forgot him, but I can’t love since then.
I jumped into spirituality, law of attraction, meditation, I signed up for career breaktrough course, I had NLP sessions to rewrite my traumas – nothing helps.
I constantly return to my lost state where I feel only apathy and disgust from everything what was bringing me joy before.
And now Im afraid to admit it to my teachers and career coaches. They expect me to be on high vibrations -as I was for a while. Nobody wants to deal with depressed person. Nobody knows how to deal with such person.
Even I don’t know how to deal with myself.
I feel informational and communication overload. I can’t stand social media anymore, although I couldn’t stay without it before. I can’t write in my blog. I don’t want to go out. I don’t want to date.
And I dont want this “spiritual awakening” which I thought I have.
I am scared of my own thoughts. Im overwhelmed with amount of techniques, courses, videos, books and teachers.
I dont know what is right and what is wrong anymore.
I get angry at someone, but then I remember that I have to be positive and loving – and I supress it. Then I get angry on myself for being angry. But at the same time being afraid that other people will cross my boundaries. And I dont know where my boundaries are anymore.. I dont know how to behave
I tried to go within, but my soul is silent.
I dont have answers. I don’t find answers in books. in media. in friends. Talking to my friends doesnt bring me joy neither. Earlier I could not live without my friends. Now I lost almost all of them.
I feel completely alone, lost and empty.
I feel weird with all this spiritual and energy stuff. I tried to attract love to my life, but it’s not working. I tried to imagine abundance and success, but then i lost any interest in it. I feel crazy and losing my mind.
I know very well that I have to be thankful for what I have. I am completely healthy, beautiful, I live in free country, and I managed to move to better country than my original. I have good job, good living space, I have enough money, I have my sister,father, nephew, I have amazing colleagues and a lot of fun. I know all this but I can’t get rid of a thought that something significant is missing.
Why can’t I be normal as many other people around me? All people except me seem to be okay with their life. They are okay with daily tasks and daily life, and its only me who is deeply suffering, and seeking for something nobody knows what.
Why can’t I be happy with what I already have?
Since I remember myself – I have deep suffering inside of me, and I can’t figure out how to break free and finally live happy life without background pain.
I don’t know what is the purpose of this email, Im hoping for help but I know that nobody can help me except myself, and most probably you won’t even get to read it.
Perhaps I just needed to write my thoughts on “paper” and start it with “Dear Oprah”. Perhaps I just needed to share it with someone who may resonate…
Very much hoping for external miracle to happen to me and show me the light.
Sincerely,
Yuliya

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Dealing with rejection

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I know how painful it can be, being rejected by someone whom you love deeply, whom you consider the king or the queen of your heart, without whom your life will fall apart.

Every human being goes trough thousands of rejections in their lifetimes. Whether from the loved ones, friends, boss, bank, job offer. Whether it was life changing rejection or just turned down invitation to hang out – it always hurts.

But what if I tell you that rejection is simply someone’s else opinion ? It’s that guy’s opinion that you are not good enough, or that boss opinion that you are not productive enough, or that bank’s which rejected you in landing money – that you are not reliable enough.

But you yourself, know the truth. You know you did your best, you are good enough, pretty, productive or anything else you want to be.

Then why do you feel so bad about that? Why someone’s else opinion is more important to you than yours? Who gave them an authority to decide whether you are good enough or not?

You did.

You put that person on pedestal for no reason and decided that from now on he will rule your kingdom. And as he is your king, his opinion has more value than yours.

All of a sudden you forgot how many times your mom or dad told you that you are beautiful. How many men(or women) told you that they love you and that you are amazing. How many gifts or signs of appreciation you received from friends. How many bosses and colleagues told you how reliable and trustworthy you are.

You forget and toss that away only because of one person who appeared out of nowhere. Who didnt know you before your first meeting. Who has no idea what’s going on in your soul, what fears and dramas you are dealing with, and how loving, creative and enjoyable you actually are. You gave him permission to have more authority in your life than you, your family, friends and loved ones all together.

Your partner, boss, friend – they are not special. Not more special than you are. If you think about their life – you ll find out that there is nothing extraordinary. Nothing which you can’t have, and for sure nothing which says that they are more valuable than you. And very often, they actually have less.

 You are your own rule-maker.  You set the guidelines. You decide how well you’ve done, how well you are doing. For you are the one who’s decided who and what you really are and who you want to be. And you are the only one who can assess how well you are doing.

 from “Conversation with God” by Neale Donald Walsch

Rejection is simply someone’s else opinion. Accept it with gratitude – it helps you to eliminate people and events which should not be in your life. Focus on your own opinion and on those who love and appreciate you the way you are ❤

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The Sunshine Blogger Award

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I am super happy to share that I have been nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award by a fellow blogger Neha from cookingbychance.

Nothing warms my heart more than knowing that my words touch someone’s soul.

What is The Sunshine Blogger Award?

It is a nomination given to bloggers by fellow bloggers. If someone nominates you, it means that you’re one of the few people whom they find positive, creative, inspiring and brings sunshine into the lives of your readers. If you decide to continue the tradition, then follow these simple rules!

Rules for the ‘Sunshine Blogger Award’:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and link back to their blog;
  • Answer the 11 questions, the blogger asked you;
  • Nominate 11 bloggers to receive this award and ask them 11 new questions;
  • Inform them that you nominated them; and
  • List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo somewhere in your post.

 

My answers to Neha’s questions:

  • What is your goal for your Blog?

To share my journey on the way to self love and better life. To bring message to the people that right now humankind is making huge shift in consciousnesses, and we start to awake and realize that “there is another way”. To help other souls understand their power and potential. To eliminate suffering and heal the planet.

  • What made you start writing?

I always loved writing, since I was in school. When I started to evolve as a person, I started to have unstoppable desire to put my journey to words and share it with people.

  • What do you find most beautiful about life?

Realizing that each person has power to live the life they want. To understand that our life can be full of love, light and joy, if we only choose it to be so.

  • Who is your Role Model and why?

I have many of them, but I started with Louise Hay. Wonderful woman, full of love, joy and creativity. She did everything in her power to help people heal their lives. I want to follow her path.

  • What do you want to change about yourself?

I would like to be more confident, in myself and in the work I do and contribution I make in lives of others

  • What has been most rewarding for you since you started your Blog?

Warm feedbacks from people who read it. Growing audience.

  • What makes you happy or what gives you energy?

Connecting with other like-minded people, receiving and giving support, having warm words on my blog posts and other creative work I do, spending time with people I love, doing sports, taking nice bath, meditating,  watching motivational videos or reading inspirational books and blogs, traveling, spending time on the sea side, having nice coffee

  • What makes you sad or what drains your energy?

Arguing and conflicts, fights, blames and aggression. Trying to explain my point of view and not being understood.

  • If tomorrow is the end of world, what would you like to do today?

I would have called all the people I had fights with and tell them that I really love them and always did. I would have gathered my loved ones who live at least in the same city and have the biggest party ever. And I would pray that tomorrow’s end of the world is just another speculation from media 🙂

  • What is the most important thing according to you which everyone should take care of in life?

Each of us should cultivate self-love. With growing love to yourself we inevitably want to love and help other people.

  • How important is money for you?

It is important, as I think we are here to enjoy life, and money are the tools to help with it. However, when I have to choose between my peace and money, I will always choose first. If I have a job offer with higher pay, but with stressful environment to compare to less paid but with pleasant atmosphere – I will choose latter.

 

I would like to nominate:

(not all of them are on wordpress. some are new, some are old, but all  inspire me daily)

she’s a seeker

ordinarilyextraordinarymom

gcdiaries

believereceiveachieveblog

alexischateau

destinytuningsecret

livealifeyoulove

marissagarza

kelseyaida

tinybuddha

dailyom

 

My Questions to fellow Bloggers:

  1. What made you start writing?
  2. Who is your role model, life coach or teacher? Who inspires you?
  3. What excites you?
  4. What do you think is the main goal in our life?
  5. Imagine the perfect world. How would it look like?
  6. What do you think you can do today to contribute to create this perfect world?
  7. What do you want to do, have or achieve in life?
  8. Tell me the biggest story or struggle which changed your life. What did you learn from it? What message could you share with other people?
  9. What are you proud of in your life?
  10. Do you believe that we receive what we ask for? If yes, tell me some story which confirms it. If not, tell me why do you think so?
  11. Do you have any success/self-development daily routine? What is it?

 

 


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It all starts with self-love

Dear reader,

I can’t express how grateful I am for the life I have. For lots of joy, love, and constant manifestations of my dreams. All things magically fall into place. I turn around and see the orchestration of events which led me to where I am now, and I love the feeling of realizing that everything happened for a reason,and it could not have happened in a better way…

My life hasn’t always been like that. I was suffering and playing victim for very long time. I was chasing men and I saw my life purpose in marriage. I was drinking, smoking, wasting time and money in bars. I was crying and worried and anxious 90% of my wake time, and even when I laughed – deep down I suffered and hated my life.

My soul was craving for freedom, but my brain was comfortable in pain. Our brain is designed for self-protection – it fears unknown and resists change. Our logical mind (or ego, or consciousness) wants us to stay in familiar place, because it knows it’s safe – nothing unexpected can come out.

But our souls crave for more.

Painful breakup up was my soul’s wake up call. When you fall down to bottom – there is no other way but start crawling up. When your pain is unbearable – you finally stop being comfortable and you pray for relief.

And it always comes.

Things start to move. People come at exact time and place and bring you exactly what you can handle at this moment. Of course, you expect your pain to go away as soon as possible, but its not going to happen. Not right now.

You will receive a friend who goes trough similar experience and who will listen to you for hours. Because this is the only thing you can handle.

You will receive new partner who loves you genuinely but you know that you dont feel the same way. Because feeling loved is what you need on this stage.

You will read hundreds of articles on how to go trough break up, which will resonate exactly with what you are feeling now.

Each day you will feel a little better and relieved, but you are still far away from full healing. And it’s okay.

Then, right when you need it and feel ready – you will discover the concept of self-love. And this is the moment your life will finally take sharp turn towards happiness.

Self-love became my nr.1 priority and my life purpose. No thing, no person, no event will ever bring true happiness if you don’t love yourself.

You want healthy, happy relationships, but are stuck with abusive partner?

Start loving yourself.

You want career, money, fulfillment, but have no idea where to start from?

Start loving yourself.

You want perfect body, health, beauty?

Start loving yourself the way you are right now.

It’s really simple.

When you love yourself – you feel worthy of things and people you desire, and they start coming.

When you love yourself – you appreciate your ideas and you act on them.

When you love yourself – you start attracting teachers, courses, coaches, articles, books, events. At the right time. At the right place.

Feeling worthy is fundamental vibration to trigger law of attraction.

Your past doesn’t matter. You can start changing your life at any given moment. You are never stuck.

I have started with Mirror work technique from Louise Hay. Louise is my first real inspiration on the journey to happiness.

Every morning, right after you wake up – go to the mirror, look into your eyes and say “I love you! I really really love you. I wish you a wonderful day!”

During day whenever you pass by the mirror – say something like “How are you doing cutie?”

Whenever something good happens, go to the mirror and thank yourself for this amazing experience.

When something unfortunate happens – immediately go to the mirror and say: “I love you anyway!”

When you walk down the street, repeat an affirmation: “I love and approve of myself”. Hundred times.

It will feel awkward and strange, and you may not believe it at first. But keep on repeating it daily, for at least 30 days. At some point you will turn around and realize that it’s working.

When light and love inside of you starts growing – you will discover other techniques, teachers and other ways to improve your life.

But start with one thing at a time. And be patient. Rewiring your brain for happy life after years of negativity will not happen over night. But you will feel a bit better every day.

It does work. It worked for Louise, it works for millions of people who follows her ideas, it works for me. It will work for you too.

Start small and simple, but start today. In few months you will be amazed by how easy and joyful life can be.


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The day I started to love myself

That day is not in non-existing past. It’s not in illusory future.  That day is NOW.

I decide that I love myself now. And I will decide it every NOW of my life.

I might have not loved myself in the past. I may not love myself in future. But I commit to love myself now – and it’s enough. This love with last forever.

The day I started to love myself my life has changed. NOW my life is changing. It is full of joy, warm words and sweet emotions. I decide that my NOW is filled with love and blessings. I decide that I deserve this all, because I AM here on this planet. I decide that im good enough for all the goodies out there.

And tomorrow, when I wake up – I will decide the same.